Add support for msvc 2022

When using more recent msvc STL's, VAPython emitted numerous `error C2039: '_invalid_parameter': is not a member of '`global namespace''`
and `error C3861: '_invalid_parameter': identifier not found`.
This was caused due to the `undef` of `_DEBUG` before the inclusion of the python headers.
This commit should fix these issues.

In addition, it cleans up the headers and adds include watchers.

References:
[1](https://github.com/microsoft/STL/issues/2335)
[2](https://github.com/pybind/pybind11/issues/3459)
[3](https://github.com/pybind/pybind11/pull/3497)
[4](https://github.com/microsoft/onnxruntime/issues/9735)